Yes! they say it is a man’s world, but by who if I may ask? But then lets assume society standards and the culture we find ourselves in. Does that however make it right for men to live the way they choose too, exercising certain rights which can be either good or bad, and of which the bad ones they get away with? Cheating has become a number one deal breaker in relationships today, and to talk about it in details would not do it justice. However, what I cannot wrap my head around is why it’s almost considered acceptable for men to cheat, who gave them the right to? Not to say women don’t cheat too, but at least its almost unheard of.
Let me begin by clarifying that I know not all men cheat, before the good and self disciplined men start criticizing me for generalizing, I really give you guys some credit. But I have never seen or heard where a man cheats and a fellow man would scold him for it, rather what follows is a song of praise for his well performed act (correct me if I am wrong); neither have I seen where a man cheats and the media or society frowns at it, but when a woman attempts to or is rumored to have cheated without facts, the media and the general public goes berserk, saying all sorts of things like its not the same blood that flows between both man and woman (not that its okay for a woman to cheat tho).
More so, the psychological effect cheating has on women cannot be overemphasized. A lot of ladies are in unhappy relationships because of their cheating partner. The most annoying is that when a man cheats on his partner, every sympathizing person around her tells her to manage and endure especially if she is married, the reason being that she has to keep her home. I consider this highly unacceptable because its not written in any marriage certificate that marriage comes with a cheating partner. I am not saying a woman should leave her home in such case, but is she really going to be happy in it? Can things go back to normal? These things really take its toil on women and every lady these days practically grows up having it at the back of her mind that at some point her man would cheat, which isn’t even right or fair.
Lets look at real life stories we know, remember Toke Makinwa and her husband, although reconciled now, we can see who was hurt the most, the story died down even when the man not only cheated but also got the lady pregnant. What did we do about it, how bad was he mouth-lashed? Not long ago, Tiwa Savage faced it real hard, when Tbillz revealed she had escapades with some named celebrities, even when we were not sure of the facts people started calling her a hoe, a prostitute, a promiscuous woman and all sorts, without addressing the main issue at hand. It always turns out bad for the woman.
My opinion is, if a man says he loves a woman and is in a relationship with her, shouldn’t he do well by living up to it. Relationships require effort, commitment and sacrifice. If there is some fantasy you need to fulfill, please tell it to your wife, perhaps she would cooperate. The other funny thing is that cheating on its own requires effort, it has to be well thought out, constantly hiding phone calls, text messages, covering up with extended working hours, spending a lot of money and what not. If you really feel this new love is worth the stress please call your relationship quits, it shows more respect and if you can’t lose what you have please don’t mess it up. For the married ones, please stay disciplined, its a lot of balls but its worth it especially when what you have means a lot to you.
On the other hand, I think we each have a responsibility to make things right. First as parents, while teaching our girl children the right values, it should also be our priority to instill the right values in our male kids, we need to make them understand that some actions are not acceptable. As a society, lets also stop downsizing the effect cheating has, just like its unheard of for a woman to cheat so it should be for a man.
But for whatever reason cheating has been considered acceptable in this part of the world is still unclear to me. That its a mans world isn’t so good an answer or that they were born that way still doesn’t justify the act. Perhaps you know why, please share.
Thanks for reading.